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How
To Masturbate; A Guide For Women
How
do women masturbate? Most women orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris.
Many others can orgasm from vaginal penetration or G-Spot stimulation. Remember, there is no wrong or right way to masturbate,
everyone is different and we all respond differently.
First, Relax as much as you can. Ensure your privacy; lock your door, turn
off the phone, make sure you are alone. Find a comfortable position.
Most women start out lying on their backs, legs bent and spread
apart, with feet on the bed or floor. Remove some or all of your
clothing; whatever feels right for you.
2. Explore your body. Run your hands along all parts of
your body, lingering along areas that are more responsive to touch
than others. Many women have very sensitive nipples and can orgasm
from nipple stimulation alone. Look at your genitals in a mirror
if that is “your thing” -- if you feel shy about that
-- that’s okay too. Caress the different parts to see what
feels extra good to you. You'll know it when you find it. Touch
your inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your
perineum. See “Your
Vagina”, if you are
new to this and to your anatomy.
3. Touch. Using one or two fingers, rhythmically stroke
the different parts of your vulva, paying particular attention
to your clitoris and labia. Use your fingers to pull your vulva
apart and gently open your vagina. Experiment with different types
of pressure, speed and motion. Try placing a finger on either
side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or placing two
fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing in a circular motion.
Place a finger in your vagina and experiment from there.
4. Experiment. Try different types of touch: stroke, knead,
pinch, or lightly pull your genitals and nipples. Try using one
or several fingers, or the palm of your hand. You'll find out
what you prefer.
5. Fantasize. Recall an exciting previous sexual encounter
or focus on that guy you have a crush on. If you need some extra
help, look at a sexy magazine, think about your dream-date or read
an erotic story. Allow your mind to wander.
6. Build up. Learn to hold onto sexual excitement by building
up and then reducing or temporarily stopping the stimulation. Pay
attention to how your body is responding. It will tell you the particular
stroke that feels best and when to pick up or slow down the tempo.
7. Breathing. Breathing is important to excitement. Breathe
deeply rather than hold your breath. This helps release the sexual
energy, rather than fight it. Rock your pelvis as you would during
intercourse. Rhythmically clench and release your PC muscle (inserting
a vibrator can help too). See kegel
exercises for more on PC muscle work.
8. Going over the edge. If your hand gets tired, give yourself
a rest, switch hands, or try a vibrator. If you're on the brink
of orgasm, but can't quite get there, try altering your breathing,
or focusing on a really hot fantasy. Give yourself extra stimulation:
caress your nipples, or try also thrusting your other fingers or
a dildo in and out of your vagina. (But, don't overdo it either).
9. Ride the wave and enjoy. As you begin to orgasm, continue
the stimulation lightly through the orgasm, or stop if it feels
like it's too intense. Lighten up on the stimulation during the
first extremely sensitive moments but keep it going to enjoy those
little pleasurable aftershocks. Your first orgasm may feel like
a blip or a blast, but the more you practice, the more variety you
will experience.
10. Don't worry. If you don't orgasm on your first try.
Keep practicing, or try some of the variations below. Practice the
breathing technique making sure you are breathing from your belly,
but don't pass out.
Practice,
practice, practice. With a bit of time you will orgasm! If you are
get sore, give yourself some time to heal.
Helpful
Hints
LUBRICATION!
- Wet, Astroglide or any that are sold in most drugstore chains.
I think Wet® makes great products. (in assorted flavors). See lubricants for more.
1.
Vibrators take some of the manual labor out of masturbation by providing
direct, intense physical stimulation to the clitoris.
2. Water seems
to help some women learn to masturbate. Lie back with legs spread
in the bathtub and use a shower hose to direct the stream of water
at your clitoris. Vary the pressure, and the pulsation. Be careful
with water that is too warm! Alternate methods: slide your butt
over the drain so your legs are up in the air and your genitals
are up under the tub faucet (rather awkward but doable), or use
Jacuzzi jets if you have them. (Of course, someone is bound to wonder
why you are in there so long). Remember, this method may not stimulate
you. Don't give up!
3. Rub against something. A body pillow, a small pillow, the corner
of some furniture, a dildo. This is how most young girls learn
to pleasure themselves.
4. Dildos
can be a pleasurable accompaniment to clitoral masturbation, as
they offer the fullness of penetration and can also stimulate
the G-Spot.
But, they are definitely not for the beginning because they are
often too large!
Benefits
from masturbation:
Masturbation
can help relieve stress and:
Recommended
Reading:
 Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
For more than 20 years, Betty Dodson has
been dedicated to taking
the shame out of masturbation. Dodson explains how anyone can
learn
to fully enjoy the pleasures of self-love.
Orgasms for Two -by
Betty Dodson Practical ideas for
improving sexual skills so men and women can add extra dimensions
of excitement and pleasure to their lovemaking, with drawings.
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